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Join me as I discuss the emotional and psychological toll on Black women following the recent election results and how we need to Opt-Out of saving everyone else and heal from savior syndrome. We need to work hard at unraveling the encoding in our DNA that has made us the nurturers of others, learn to prioritize self-care, our mental well-being, and healing over the societal expectation to be saviors. The conversation explores the historical context of Black women’s roles as caregivers and nurturers, the burden of resilience, and the importance of setting boundaries to protect mental health.

 

Chapters

00:00 Opting Out of the Savior Role 10:06 The Burden of Strength and Resilience 19:45 Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Self-Care

 

Takeaways

We are opting out of being the savior. Black women are often expected to be strong and resilient, which dismisses their struggles. The recent election results have led to feelings of hopelessness among Black women. Self-care is not just about pampering; it’s about true emotional and mental well-being. Black women are dying at alarming rates due to stress and neglect of self-care. Setting boundaries is essential for mental health and well-being. The historical context of Black women’s roles impacts their current mental health. It’s important to recognize who supports us in our lives. We need to stop making excuses for those who don’t show up for us. Prioritizing ourselves is not selfish; it’s necessary.

 

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In this conversation, I discuss the painful and often overlooked issue of parental alienation, which occurs when one parent manipulates their child against the other parent after a breakup or divorce. I share examples of what parental alienation looks like and share some of my personal experiences with this dynamic, highlighting the emotional toll it takes on both the alienated parent and the child. The conversation emphasizes the importance of healing, accountability, and the need for children to have a safe space to process their emotions without being influenced by either parent. Ultimately, it calls for parents to prioritize their children’s wellbeing over their own grievances.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Parental Alienation 04:24 The Impact of Alienation on Children 08:29 The Role of Both Parents in Alienation 12:20 Healing and Moving Forward 15:10 Finding Support and Community

 

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Join me in this conversation as I discuss the complexities and challenges of single motherhood, emphasizing that many women find themselves in this role unexpectedly and without choice. Listen to me discuss the emotional toll, societal judgment, and the resilience required to navigate this journey as a single mom. This a conversation that aims to foster empathy and understanding for single mothers, encouraging support from those who may not fully grasp the struggles involved.

Chapters

00:00 The Unexpected Journey to Single Motherhood 03:21 The Emotional Toll of Single Motherhood 07:59 Resilience and Strength in Adversity 12:43 Judgment and Misunderstanding of Single Mothers 15:34 Empathy and Support for Single Moms

 

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and In this episode I discuss the often-overlooked topic of parental abuse with my guest Alice Slaughter-Flowers who lost her sister Rosemary Pate to violence at the hands of her own son.

Join me as we explore the realities of parents living in fear of their own children, living under constant mental distress because of their children, being abused verbally and physcially and even killed by their own children.

We will discuss the cultural stigma surrounding this issue, the blame and judgement that mothers often face when trying to share their experiences, and the diverse factors that contribute to such dynamics.

The conversation highlights the need for awareness, support, and resources for parents facing abuse, emphasizing that this is a serious issue that transcends socioeconomic status and family structure.

If you are in need of help please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1*800*799*SAFE 

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Parental Abuse 01:50 The Reality of Parental Abuse 06:10 Cultural Perspectives on Abuse 12:10 The Role of Mental Health 18:16 The Stigma of Seeking Help 24:53 Understanding Parental Abuse Dynamics 30:42 Personal Stories of Abuse 36:32 The Need for Support and Resources

 

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Don’t be mad sis. Hear me out in this candid episode, as I dive into the complex dynamics that arise when mothers treat their sons like emotional partners or even stand-in husbands. With heartfelt insight and a dash of real talk, I touch on how these blurred lines can hinder a son’s emotional growth and create unhealthy co-dependency. Tune in as I discuss the importance of self-awareness for moms, the need for clear boundaries, and how both mothers and sons can work towards fostering independence and building healthier relationships for the future and for their mental well-being.

 

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In this eye-opening episode of Mum’s True Tea, I dive deep into the emotional toll that motherhood can take on mental health, including how it can lead to PTSD. I explore the backlash I received for speaking this truth, especially as a single mom. Society often paints motherhood as a joyful experience, but for many, it’s far from the truth. Single moms face intense financial, emotional, and physical burdens, often with little to no support from partners, family, or their community. We discuss the harsh realities of absent fathers and the lack of understanding from those who fail to recognize the struggles single moms endure. Plus, why men who despise single moms often have unresolved issues of their own. Let’s shed light on these tough truths and call for the support and empathy single mothers deserve.

 

Chapters

00:00 The Disdain and Lack of Support for Single Moms 06:02 The Sole Responsibility of Single Moms 10:38 The Truth About the Difficulties of Motherhood 15:26 Men Who Hate Single Moms: Unresolved Issues 18:19 The Need for Support and Understanding for Single Moms

 

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In this episode I discuss how managing motherhood is more about moving through it and learning along the way. We don’t really manage mothehood, motherhood manages us. Society often silences the struggles of mothers, but it’s important to have support and express our true feelings about motherhood some days. It’s okay to have regrets and struggles in motherhood. To navigate motherhood, it’s important to let go of mom guilt, remove codependency, and embrace imperfections. Creating space and finding a community for moms who haven’t had a great experience is crucial. Social media often portrays a perfect image of motherhood, but it’s important to show self-compassion and prioritize self-care. Setting boundaries, managing time, and finding a supportive tribe are key to managing motherhood.

Chapters

00:00 Moving Through Motherhood: Learning Along the Way 02:30 Embracing Imperfections: Letting Go of Mom Guilt 05:09 Creating a Supportive Community 06:55 Prioritizing Self-Care: Nurturing Yourself as a Mom 08:47 Protecting Your Mental and Emotional Well-Being 11:06 Embracing Imperfection and Celebrating Wins

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In this episode, I discuss how some of us Gen X parents need to take accountability for how we may have gotten it wrong with our parenting and how we may have failed or enabled our children and the importance of setting boundaries with our children without feeling guilty.

I reflect on the independence and resilience of the Gen X generation and how we may have done our children a disservice by trying to be friends in lieu of parents, giving them more than they needed or deserved, wanting to be so understanding and giving them so much freedom and less discipline which is in stark comparison to how we were raised by our paretns. 

This may have resulted in a sense of entitlement and a lack of resilience in the younger generation. We see the impacts of always being the safety net for our kids, we didn’t teach them financial responsibility and there are negative consequences of enabling children. We should have been setting boundaries, because contrary to what societs says, boundaries are a loving act that promotes independence, resillence, respect, and appreciation. We made our suffering and struggles look too easy.

 

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: Gen X Parents: Failing & Enabling Our Adult Kids 02:22 The Independence and Resilience of the Gen X Generation 03:20 Enabling and the Consequences of Overextending 06:41 Creating a Sense of Entitlement 07:26 The Need to Set Boundaries and Overcoming Guilt 08:53 Being Unapologetic and Authentic in Setting Boundaries

 

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PART 2

Because of the feedback that I received, I went a little deeper on this conversation in hopes it will encourage someone.

Welcome to Part 2 of this very personal Mum’s True Tea w/Kendall Lasha episode as I discuss grieving the loss of an already estranged parent further and share some of the ways that I have been able to process such a loss. Come take a look and listen at some insight on navigating this form of grief and loss. ABOUT “MUM’S TRUE TEA” PODCAST: Just in case you didn’t know “MUM’S TRUE TEA” is the Podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought-provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood authentically, unapologetically, and without judgment. I’m your host, Kendall Lasha Williams. I wanted to create this community and safe space for moms who don’t always have that warm and fuzzy feeling we’re expected to have when it comes to motherhood.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Recap of Episode One 00:52 The Complexity of Grieving an Estranged Parent 02:18 Setting Boundaries and Dealing with Guilt 03:12 Exploring Personal Experiences and Emotions 06:00 Tools for Processing the Loss: Therapy and Writing 09:47 Self-Reflection and Finding Meaning in the Experience 10:15 Healing and Moving Forward 11:14 Conclusion and Call to Action

 

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On this very personal episode, I discuss the process of grieving the loss of an already estranged parent. This loss is a complex and emotional process. It is so important to allow yourself to grieve and process the emotions associated with losing a parent that was already gone from your life. It’s a different pain when you have been abandoned by this parent and now they are gone. It’s also important that you find healing and give yourself grace while navigating the loss of an estranged parent. They may have not been with us when we needed them, but I strongly believe they are with us now.

 

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: Processing the Loss of an Estranged Parent 01:48 The Absence of Father’s Day Celebrations 05:56 Finding Comfort in the Belief of Parental Presence 07:25 Healing from the Absence and Abandonment

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